is there a right and wrong place to sit?

One thing you’ll notice as you learn the language of your home is that everything is connected. 

How your home feels impacts how you feel. 
How you feel impacts how your home feels. 

There’s this incredible symbiotic relationship between the two. 

Which brings me to anxiety. 

It’s hard not to feel it right now. Collectively, it seems like we’ve been on the losing side of a giant dodgeball game. 

Which brings me to your home.

What can you do in your home to reduce any anxiety you might be feeling? While there are a number of different ways, there’s one that jumps to the top of the list.

Sitting and sleeping in the command or power position.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE IN COMMAND POSITION?

• You have a solid wall behind you.

• You have a view of the door(s) in front of you, preferably at an angle.

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WHY DOES THE COMMAND POSITION MATTER?

• It allows you to see what’s coming towards you. You eliminate the anxiety-inducing element of surprise and the unknown. 
  

• The solid wall behind you acts like your very own support system. It creates the feeling that someone has your back.
  

• With a view of what’s coming ahead and a feeling of support from behind, your home mirrors the sense of peace and safety that we all crave in times of anxiety. 

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A FEW LOGISTICS:

• You may need to rearrange your furniture (or you!) so that your favorite spot doesn’t leave you feeling exposed.

  

• Command position includes your bed. Ideally, your bed is against a solid wall and diagonally from the door.

  

  

• Command position includes your desk. When your desk faces a wall, it can hinder your creativity, expansion, and perspective. Floating your desk so that it faces into the room will provide greater confidence and allow you to see the opportunities knocking at your door.

• If the architecture of your space doesn’t allow you to see the door from your bed, desk, or favorite chair, you can place a mirror in front of you that allows you to see the reflection of the door in the mirror.
  

• If the architecture of your space doesn’t allow you to have a solid wall behind you, you can try adding a piece of furniture behind you that acts like a wall. For example, placing a sofa table behind a couch. 

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NOW OVER TO YOU:

Spend a week consciously choosing to be in the command position, and notice how you feel.

I’d love to hear!

(Also, pop in the comments any questions you have about the command position.)

Until next week,

xoxo
Dorena
Space Doula®

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