The One Space Your Soul Craves (and how to create it)

Some of you’ve heard about the morning I woke up to 700 gallons of water on our kitchen floor - just hours before boarding a flight to Denver.

It’s what led to months of mold remediation and a second kitchen remodel in a 12-month span. It’s also what led me into a deep conversation with my home to understand the message behind “the flood” as we affectionately refer to it at our house.

When I put the feng shui puzzle pieces together….

Water 👉 emotions
Mold 👉 standing water for an extended period of time

….I began to understand that the mold growing underneath my hardwood floors was mirroring a lifetime of stagnant emotions.

Knowledge is power right?

YES…

For the first time, I understood the extent to which I’d disassociated from my emotions as a means of protection.

AND…

Now it was time to begin feeling my big emotions.

BUT HOW?

If you’ve been running from your emotions for a lifetime, how do you suddenly begin feeling them?

I believe it’s in the quiet. The pause. When we stop running (doing) and begin to slow down, there’s space to feel our feelings.

AND NOW THE ULTIMATE QUESTION….

How can our homes support us in slowing down when we’ve never known anything different?

One way is through the creation of a sacred space. A space where you can feel safe, take a deep breath, and tune into what your mind and body are whispering.

Here are a few do’s and don’t to consider when creating your sacred space.

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WHAT TO KEEP IN MIND WHEN CREATING A SACRED SPACE:

• Sacred spaces can be any size. An entire room or a corner in your closet.

• When sitting in your sacred space, it’s important to have a solid wall behind you and a view of the door. This is what we call command position in feng shui. It’s what allows your nervous system to unwind.

• Soft throws, pillows, and candles are great accoutrements to any sacred space.

• Having a view of nature from your sacred space is particularly sweet. (A houseplant or photograph counts.)

• Not having distractions in your line of sight is preferable. This includes things like the load of wash to be folded or the overflowing pile of mail.

• Natural light (or a dimmable light) is more welcoming than harsh overhead lighting.

• Ideally, you always have first dibs on your sacred space and don’t need to chase others out of it.

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NOW OVER TO YOU

I’d love to hear about your sacred spaces.

Do you have one? If you do, what is it like.

If you don’t, what questions do you have about creating one?

Let me know in the comments.

Here’s to creating a sacred space to honor the pause,

xoxo
Dorena
Space Doula®